Friday, January 18, 2013

book brag: "bring it, bitches!" by kelli gilpin



since i want to be 100% honest and authentic on my blog, 24/7/365, i have to give a quick disclaimer about this book review. first, kelli gilpin is a friend of mind (and i look to her as a mentor, though she might not know it!). second, she provided me with a copy of her book for free (isn't she the best?), but she didn't ask for anything in return (no publicity, no review, etc). she gave me a copy out of the kindness of her heart because she knows the challenges i face at work and my dreams of writing a novel. she is a woman who genuinely wants to see other women succeed! refreshing, right? with that said, i of course wanted to share my thoughts on kelli's book with the world because i want her to be successful, too (in other words, i'm doing this review because i want to, not because i was asked or commissioned to). but i also know that her tips on OWNing the room and building self-confidence are crucial steps for making my life exactly what i want it to be. believing in yourself and taking control of your path is healthy! kelli's book fits right into to what my blog is all about. 

i was sorely mistaken for thinking this book was just for business/marketing/sales practices. but i quickly learned and realized that OWNing a room is not just about nailing a presentation or sales pitch. it's about how you handle situations. this statement made me think about this book and the tips inside in an entirely different light. it's not just about work or career advancement for me, it's about how i OWN who i am to everyone i meet, in every situation i'm presented with. how many times are we different versions of ourselves when we're in different scenarios or with different people? too many times. how many of us would like to be one, consistent, awesome, confident and memorable version of ourselves all the time? i know i would! and i genuinely think that all of kelli's tips will help make that a reality for me the more i take them to heart and practice them.

i like this book for several reasons:

1) it's an easy read. not in that it's too short or too simple minded. but in the fact that you're not bored to death by long-drawn out paragraphs about the psychology of confidence or why women act one way and men act another. kelli will explain something and get you right to the stuff you want: the action items on how to change what you want to change!

2) kelli has written this book in tone and language that is exactly how she would speak to you if she was coaching you face-to-face. as someone who has witnessed kelli doing this in action, i can tell you her personality shines in every word of this book. she's your friend, not your superior and i love that the tone of this book feels that way from beginning to end. you would feel comfortable getting advice from your best friend (hopefully or why are you bffs?), right? well, this book is advice from your bff, just in printed form.

3) all of kelli's suggestions and recommendations are things you can do right away. and they are small steps that will lead you up the path of personal change and growth. for example, here are a few of my favorite light bulb moments:
  • ditch the disclaimers: why do we feel the need to apologize or give lengthy disclaimers when we're about to say something? i'm sure you guys already thought of this but.... this might sound crazy but.... i know you're super swamped but...  these disclaimers actually put ourselves down. why do we do this to ourselves? i know i'm guilty. just say what we have to say - OWN it - because we have every right to voice our thoughts/opinions!
  • toot your own horn: to get noticed, you have to make sure people know how good your work is and how good you are. a big d'oh! moment for me. it is my responsibility to make sure people know what i'm all about and what i bring to the table - if i don't do it, who will? we can't assume it will just happen in time, because it won't and then think of all the time we've wasted waiting for something to happen! make it happen yourself (that's truly OWNing it).
  • even if you know your audience, tell them who you are: kelli explains that telling your own story makes it easier for people to relate to you. i always, always say my name and what team i'm on when i'm presenting to a group/audience at work, and that's it. if i want to build connections, make friends, help people remember who i am, i have to tell them something more about me. my title doesn't make me who i am, folks! i'm going to try and tie in personal stories to connect why i'm speaking in front of the room from now on!

in a final note, i love this book because it touches on a critical component that a lot of books  with  empowerment messages leave out: passing wisdom on to the younger generation. kelli has a whole section on how to translate her messages to girls and young women. and this is a message i'm so passionate about (re-telling the story of missrepresentation is one of my own evangelists journeys) - the generations underneath us are so impressionable. to give them their best chance, we need to tell them (in-grain in them) how awesome they are, because (let's face it), you and i know from experience how hard it can be in today's society to believe we are awesome ourselves.


bottom line:

if you want actionable tips and tools to help you feel more confident in yourself, in your job or whatever else it is you're doing in life - this book gives you just that. all of kelli's advice is laid out in plain english and bullet points so you don't get lost in a massive amount of mumble jumble words. kelli delivers her advice and recommendations just the way your best friend would give you advice and it really feels like you're having a pep-talk with your best friend with a glass of wine (or two). and you'll want to keep reading. when's the last time you said that about a book that promised to make you your best you?? yeah, that's what i thought (coughcough i have five of those collecting digital dust on my kindle right now coughcough).

you can download kelli's book on amazon, barnes & noble and other digital mediums. check out her site for more info, kelligilpin.com.


2 comments:

  1. Amy @Write this DownJanuary 18, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    how many of us would like to be one,
    consistent, awesome, confident and memorable version of ourselves all
    the time?

    yes please! I am going to get this today.

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  2. Agreed. This is something I am working on - but it sure isn't easy! (You'd think it would be, right?)

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